A Personal Reminder About Online Bullying Between Feminists


A personal reminder from Virginia NOW’s Communications Vice President, Paradise

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Any time someone says to you, ‘you’re not a feminist if you don’t also support _________’, realize immediately that this is NOT your issue. This is a conflict that the original poster needs to resolve within themselves.

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These kinds of posts are a flagrant abuse of power and manipulation, whereby the poster banks on someone else’s insecurities, guilts and fears in order to create lapdog who will do their preaching for them. 

These social justice warriors need to bully others into believing what they believe, and should you disagree, you’re simply not a part of the women’s movement any longer.

And this is just lies and manipulation. 

Nastiness, bullying, and political guilt trips should be non-existent between fellow feminists within the movement.  Women receive enough guilt in their day to day lives.  Let us not retreat back to high school tactics as our new form of advocacy.  Let us seek camaraderie in the feminist community. Let us seek a safe haven to share our thoughts, our passions, and our struggles without being shut down for saying something outside the status quo.

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Christians used to do this to me all the time. They would tell me that if I wasn’t their denomination of Christianity, then I wasn’t really a Christian. So I said, “K, then I’m not a Christian.”

I don’t want to reach this same point with feminism.

It’s very sad to see so many of these ‘faux feminist social justice warrior elites’ bully lifelong feminists with explicit sexist and racist slurs.  I’m used to seeing this kind of behavior from the radical right.  I’ve come to learn that radical is radical, regardless of whether it’s from the right or left.

“Feminism is a great sisterhood of love and support where the acceptance of different ideas and perspectives is welcomed for the greater good.  This is liberation.  The right to disagree and the choice to still support each other is actual feminism.

I might not be in someone else’s denomination of feminism, but that doesn’t mean I’m not an incredible feminist and aficionada of the women’s liberation movement.

So please, if you see a feminist attacking someone else – especially online, even if you agree with his or her stance, call them out on it.  Tell them to try another approach.  Why?  Because they are single-handedly making potential newbie feminists back AWAY from the women’s movement. These bullies are creating resistance to what you represent.

There are so many different topics to address in the women’s movement that it would be a waste of our collective knowledge, resources, and solutions if we only worked on the same issues.  Welcome what others can bring to the movement.

A movement, after all, is only as good as its people. Be kind and be awesome.

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Love and light,
Paradise

P.S. Thank you to my incredible web editor, Katie Regan, who encouraged me to post this on Virginia NOW’s blog.  You’re an inspiration, m’friend.  xoxo!


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